I have been brought up to be very independent, (even though I will need some support from the rents when I graduate!) and never like the stereotypes of dating such as men always paying, driving, etc... I like to be the one in charge sometimes. I like to be pampered, sure, but I also like to be in control and do some of the wine and dining... I guess I just have some more masculine traits.
My boyfriend loves the idea that he is about to be my "sugar daddy." He will be able to afford paying for flights, and expensive b-day/anniversary/Christmas gifts. I fell horribly uneasy about this situation. I feel like most girls would looove it and take advantage of it, but its really been bothering me. Although I do find myself dropping hints about some gifts I want... haha
I guess its true what we hear in class. Some girls want to be treated totally equal but the minute they have a flat tire, or in my case, gifts and flights, they are glad to enact the stereotypes despite any uneasy feelings about the situation.
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I know exactly how you feel!! every girl wants to be pampered that doesn't mean that we expect it! my boyfriend is several years older than me but he is still and school and works hard for all of the money he has to play with, pay bills etc. lately he's been having money issues because he's going to school more than working (so its pretty much the opposite of your situation) but he doesn't ever want to do anything because he doesn't have money. However i'm financially stable and more than happy to pay sometimes just so we can do things. Now i don't want to pay for everything he does but i really don't mind helping him here and there but he HATES IT. for intance i just got free tickets to six flags and he doesn't want to go because he doesn't have money to buy food at the park while we're there. And he's being all sensitive about me buying a meal in exchange for a free day at six flags. I got so angry at him and then immediately thought to our class and how he's probably feeling the "pressure" we always talk about men having about having to provide financially, so i cut him some slack. But i wish they didn't have that burden because honestly its kind of annoying to me.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to be treated good. You are fortunate to have a man who is financially able to take care of you.The problem would arise if you were taking care of him. According to society this is perfectly normal. I understand you for wanting to feel bad because you are currently feeling inadequate as a woman for wanting to fulfill your part of the relationship. Let a man be a man, and if you say he is happy with the idea of being your sugar daddy, let him. Nothing makes a man feel better than knowing that he is able to be a provider.
I understand how you feel. Especially, if it's about financial thing, I feel like I am really dependent. But, I think that not paying everything by yourself dose not mean that your are not independent. Money is not only thing that you can give to your boyfriend. If he is happy, that actually good. At least better than upsetting. You are providing that happiness to him by being his girl.
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