I worked in a restaurant where one of the male managers was very cool and laid back. The only problem was that he fell in that sexual harrassment category every once and a while. I was helping him out in the kitchen one day when he looked over and said, "when did you get that ass?" From that moment on, he always made a comment. At first I just laughed at him but after a while I got a little disgusted. It wasn't only with me when he would say inappropriate things. If there was ever a group of females clustered together at one point, he would walk by and say "I love my wife, I love my wife..." He would stand around with other male servers and talk about it too.
He did ask me once if it bothered me. I said it was a little odd considering he was old enough to be my father. It didn't stop him from his comments. Even though I wasn't completely up front by saying "yes you are crossing a line," I did make a point that I wasn't exactly comfortable with it. Does that automatically give males the right to continue? Does it really matter what I say? I told him, indirectly, that it was wrong, but it didn't stop him at all. This is one little thing that makes it hard for a female to be comfortable at work. It may not be a corporate business or a "power suit" kind of place but we all still deserve the respect!
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Yes it matters! It is not right for men or women to talk like that about or to the other sex!!! It is sexual harassment...point blank.
Men are NOT automatically given the right to continue sexual harassment. In this case YOU are giving him the right to continue. Obviously your confrontation with him about him crossing the line did not make an impression on him...that means he is not taking you seriously. You need to be serious with him on this and let your voice be heard, if not with him, then with his supervisor or someone that is above him.
This is not something you should have to deal with but if you don't deal with it then you are allowing it to happen. Women not standing up for themselves is why men feel that they have an inherent right to continue. They are pushing the boundaries...as long as they get away with it they will continue to do it.
Does that automatically give males the right to continue?
He is your subordinate and that type of behavior is inappropriate in the workplace period.
Does it really matter what I say? Yes it matters, but if you dont go over his head its like it never happened. Most companies have an open door policy and a no retaliation policy.But, there are other things they can legitametly fire you for and legally get away with it being that texas is a right to work state. If they do fire you then apparently it wasnt the place for you anyway.But you should always want to fill comfortable in your job.
Yes it completely matters and whether you explicitly told him to stop or not you still told him that it made you feel uncomfortable. Not to mention that this is a work environment and this is completely inappropriate behavior. I commend you for being professional and continuing to work; however unless you file a formal complaint to your boss then it's likely it will just continue. And when it comes to situations like this I feel that it's why sexual harashment still exist because either someone doesn't feel they're crossing a line, or because there is not a formal complaint made. To often I think people excuse this short of behavior or either feel that they complaints will not be dealt with in any case it's up to you to do something if not then I'm afraid it will just continue.
In situations like this you really should directly speak with them about it. Some people especially people that are doing things like this, don't always know that it is wrong. They are so self envolved that they don't take much thought into your indirect ways of saying no, they need to hear NO. Just like when people ask you to do drugs, you "just say NO!" Or if you are getting raped you don't indirectly, in some around about way say NO, you scream NO DIRECTLY!
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