Judging women by what they wear
Two years ago, I went down town with one of my friends and I was wearing white shorts and a black and white stripped shirt (slightly low cut), and heels. This was the style back then and still maybe who knows. Anyways I went over to a girlfriends house up in Austin right after I got off work and had my change of clothes with me. Later that night I drove back to San Marcos, when I got home I went over to my boyfriends (ex boyfriend shorty after this incident..) and his mouth dropped open and then he said, "If you were to wear a cops uniform what do you think people would think you are?"
I replied "a cop."
He said, "Yeah and so if you wear a sluts uniform what do you think people will think you are?"
WOW! Okay this just goes a long with what we were talking about in class with men putting the blame on women for men viewing us (women) a certain way. This situation above suggest that if I was rapped or called a slut that night it would BE MY FAULT as a women, just because I was wearing a ''cute and in style outfit" down town.
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when i think of the word cute i think of a 3 year old girl with pig-tails or a baby kitten, or when a guy does something really cheesy for a girl he likes... that's cute.
"white shorts and a black and white stripped shirt (slightly low cut), and heels" ....does that sound cute?
if you're boyfriend called you a slut and he likes you, you probably did not look cute, you looked like he would pay for you if he saw you standing on corner downtown.
think about it.
there are ways to look "cute" even in your 20's that don't say "hey please grab my ass"
dress like a piece of meat and don't be surprised when guys drewl
Okay maybe cute was not a good choice of words, but even HOT, or SEXY just cause we want to look like this does not in any way make a girl a slut. America has a specific set of standards that every one must obey in order to NOT be called a slut,Jeans and a t-shirt, or jeans and a shirt that covers you and show no cleavage or stomach area. Gotta make sure those shorts are not to short other wise we maybe called sluts. Girls should not be called sluts based on what they wear this is a stereotypical way of categorizing people and in the end it is hurtful towards women that just appreciate their bodies and don't mind acknowledging that they have one. Of course girls wear "Cute" "Hot" 'Sexy" things in order to get guys attention but not in the way that is like HEY baby come take me home and rape me, or grab my ass (Well some girls do...but for the most part no...)Just because a girl appreciates her body and wants to look sexy every once in awhile or even everyday this does not make them a "Slut", Step out of the norm or what America says is okay to wear and, and oh no all hell breaks loose and you are a slut and want multiple guys to take advantage of you. (I really appreciate your point of view, thank you for saying something....) =)
First things first, If you were my girl i would expect you to be decent at all times. Your boyfriend at the time may have been offended by what you wore and felt it was unlady like. True a persons outfits shouldnt dictate who they are, but in todays society they do have a great influence. Im not saying a slut has an ideal look because the come in all styles, but you have to look at things from his point of view. You said you were downtown austin without him, so he may have had a little insecurity. The moral of the story is dress how you want to be viewed. You wont go to a job interview in shorts and a tank top, you want you potential employer to view you as a professional therfore you conduct yourself accordingly.
I guess the main thing is I don't view what people wear as who they are. I view who they are based on how they communicate and express themselves with words not clothes, I don't care if people are naked or not, but then again I am going against societies norm, I am not like everyone else (I go against societies norms most of the time, not all but most) and I see your point and it is a good one, but I guess I am just an odd ball out when it comes to the idea of this, which is bueno it is what makes the world go round. Thanks for you comments!!
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