Okay, so today in class we had this huge discussion about chivalry and who should pay for what in a relationship. First on the chivalry part, it's always polite when a man opens the door for a woman or when he lets her have his seat on the bus. But this is 2008, not the medievil times! Women shouldn't always complain about not getting the door opened for them or a seat. Sometimes they might need to give up their own, like when someone said about the man holding his two kids and no one got up for him, but her. Now that's being polite and everyone should be polite! It's common sense.
Who pays for what in the relationship?? No, it should not always be the man. Maybe in the beginning of the relationship when ya'll are dating and he's trying to start something. But as time goes by, there is that imaginary line when it's just time for the woman to start paying for the man. I enjoy buying my boyfriend things and taking him out to dinner, it's not being a sugarmama! It's just giving his wallet a break all those times he took me out and now it's my turn to treat him!!
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Some men date so much that they get tired of paying everytime they go on a date. Money begins to hit their pockets so thats why sometimes they want the girl to offer. They may not necessarily let the girl pay but after a while they just want to be appreciated. Women do tend to have a history of using guys to get free dates, and as soon as the guy decideds to stop taking her out, she stops communicating. Also its kind of the reason why guys turn to sex as another option because they feel that ladies can be unappreciative sometimes. Many girls say that guys only want one thing, yet girls cant do one thing as simple as say thank you or open her purse every once in a while.
I agree that there are some women that do "take advantage" of men as far as paying goes. But, not all do. I am the one that pays for most of the meals and night's out that my boyfriend and I do. I do it because he does not have much money. He does pay once a month or so. I don't mind doing it because I love him and I want to spend time with him. I look at like this...it's only money...and it costs money to go out...but spending time with him means more to me.
I don't think the label "Sugar Momma or Sugar Daddy" should be put to it because that is not always what it is. Most of the time it is the person that is better off financially that is paying regardless of gender.
If a man asks you out, he should pay. Just like if a woman asks a man out, she should pay. But if you start going on multiple dates, I don't think a man should have to pay every time, for everything. It's true that women use men for dates, and free drinks. But men use women for sex, so I think it all evens out. Like the old saying goes, there is no such thing as a free lunch. When you are not in a committed relationship, and out in the dating field, women usually are wined and dined with certain expectations. If a guy offers you a drink at a bar, he expects you to sit and flirt, give him your number, and in some cases even go home with him. and ummm no thanks, not worth me saving $4.50, unless he's hot and really cool...haha j.k. (kind of)
As stated in the orginal comment, more than likely the guy will be the one paying for the dates in the begining. It's just the way it is, part of the role of being a man/gentlemen, being able to take your girl out so you and her can spend time together then pay for both of you and not think twice about it. But like someone else said should the girl ask a guy out I could see a situation were she pays for a couple dates in the beginning and then the guy probably would take over. Initially in dating I would say the guy as the responsibility in paying but should it go past dating and actually turn into a relationship then whatever goes. Taking turns paying for dates, whoever has money at the time, or whoever just feels like paying because if your actually tryin in a relationship and you care about the other person money shouldn't be too much of an issue. It's a materialistic quality which I believe most people would agree shouldn't come into account when judging somebody on who they are and the integrity of their character. It reminds me of Blow when Depps dad tries to teach him money isn't real. Basically my opinion is the question of whos paying for dinner tonight shouldnt strike up too much drama. I say this but I do understand how money can come into greater concern because it is required in order for people to live comfortable lives which im sure most people try to do.
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