Monday, September 15, 2008
9/15
Today in class we discussed how children tend to find a romantic partner that is like their parents. I do not think that this is always the case, well not with me anyways. My boyfriend has completely different interests and hobbies as my dad. My dad is a football kind of guy and has a "white collar" job. My boyfriend on the other hand loves to hunt and fish. His job is hard very physical work. However, even with the differences that they have, they have the same heart. They are both loving, caring, and responsible people. I think that is the most important. I do not think that a woman should find an exact replica of her dad, because no one is going to be the dad that she grew up with. But, she can find someone that will love her and wil hold the same personality and character traits.
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I can see where females may look for characteristics their fathers have in their boyfriends. My boyfriend and my father are very opposite, however I find myself asking my boyfriend to do things a certain way, much like how my father would handle them. I don't expect any man to be like my father. I think that may be a little strange. But like I said, you find your fathers characteristics in them.
I think that it's good to have some characteristics of a father reflected in a boyfriend however I know I dont want a little mini dad either. I mean I love my father and we have an excellent relationship but I just wouldnt want to be trying to grade my boyfriend on whether or not he meets the criteria of being a carboncopy of my father. However I will say that I've noticed more and more that they do share very similar traits.
Our first rolemadels for relationships are our parents and we tend to gravitate toward familiarity. That would explain why women look for boyfriends/spouses similar to their fathers. However, I also feel that a woman's relationship with her father may lead her to look for a man who is opposite, or at least not like, her father. Some women grew up in homes where the father is either too authoritarian or not involved enough and she would want someone less overbearing or more involved. Personally, I do look for similarities between potential guys and my dad, but there are also many areas in which I would rather they differ.
Well I think that women do not look for someone like father, but find someone like father(or father figure someone) unconsciously, because that is the man women know from early time. And also I do not think what their hobbies are the matter. "Someone like father" means that the person has same characteristic of heart. It is different from what his jobs are and what he does for his leisure.
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