Monday, September 22, 2008
men against violence
so today in class we talked about mens movements and some of them being men against violence. I think these are great organizations for men to be involved in however it got me thinking of my experience with men i knew in organizations like that. My ex-boyfriends best friend was the president of MAV (men against violence) and he was one of the rudest people i have ever met, unless he really liked you. I never witnessed him be physically violent with women but he was verbally abusive all the time. I would walk into their apartment to see my boyfriend and get a "hey slut" or a "hey bitch" all the time. It offended me at first but then i just got used to the fact that thats just how he is. However it gives a negative vibe to an organization if their president acted that way. Now i don't know if he was really in the organization for the right reasons or if it was just to look good on a resume but either way i think its wrong. If you're going to take a stand on such a strong topic like that it needs to be consistent through out your life.
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That is pretty lame that someone that is supposed to represent treating women well would act like that. It just goes to show that people don't always practice what they preach. That guy's definition of violence should have included emotional violence as well. Did anyone ever point it out to him?
Not that i know of. I would say things to him when he was verbally rude towards me but i never pointed out the fact that he was a leader of that organization and therefore shouldn't be acting that way.
He is very rude and coldhearted. You should not have taken that verbal abuse. On the otherhand if you said that to a guy we would probably laugh. Those words do not hold the same meaning in our society so its an unfair situation for many women. As far as his role, he should have been a better representation of that organization and violence is not just physical. he was verbally violent and it was uncalled for. In these situations women should end the relationship or confront that individual if you really want to make it work.
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