Victim or Predator

In class we talked about the victim being blamed when he/she is raped. Dr.LeClair said that it is a problem that we blame the victim more and not the rapist. This topic has always had me on the fence. Because I have witnessed girls that have been under the influence and made some choices that they were not proud of and called rape the next day or when people started finding out. However I do know some girls that this legitemently happened to. So this is where it gets fuzzy and gray to me. Why do some girls feel like calling rape on a guy that she regrets is a way out? Its not. This is one of the problems that leads to society thinking that the victim is to blame, when that is not always the case. This really makes me angry.

Women getting blamed for looking cute....

Judging women by what they wear

Two years ago, I went down town with one of my friends and I was wearing white shorts and a black and white stripped shirt (slightly low cut), and heels. This was the style back then and still maybe who knows. Anyways I went over to a girlfriends house up in Austin right after I got off work and had my change of clothes with me. Later that night I drove back to San Marcos, when I got home I went over to my boyfriends (ex boyfriend shorty after this incident..) and his mouth dropped open and then he said, "If you were to wear a cops uniform what do you think people would think you are?"
I replied "a cop."
He said, "Yeah and so if you wear a sluts uniform what do you think people will think you are?"

WOW! Okay this just goes a long with what we were talking about in class with men putting the blame on women for men viewing us (women) a certain way. This situation above suggest that if I was rapped or called a slut that night it would BE MY FAULT as a women, just because I was wearing a ''cute and in style outfit" down town.

Ciara Proves She’s All Woman

Since the first photos of Ciara posing in the buff for Vibe Magazine hit the net, fans and non fans alike have been wondering why Ciara, a singer who has been relatively modest about her displaying her sexuality, would make such a bold move and disrobe for all of the world to see. Well, one quick glance at a quote from the magazine pretty much tells the tale. “They said I was a man! It doesn’t get any worse than that”. It appears all those nasty internet rumors about the singer forced her to make a very in your face statement about what she was working with. 

Warren Buffet and lack of Parent bonding

Buffett revered his father, a stockbroker who became a four-term Congressman, he had a complex relationship with his mother. A model housewife to the outside world, his mother would "verbally lash" the young Buffett and his older sister for hours, until the children wept. Buffett says that when his mother died he cried not because he was sad but "because of the waste. She had her good parts, but the bad parts kept me from having a relationship with her."

men against violence

so today in class we talked about mens movements and some of them being men against violence. I think these are great organizations for men to be involved in however it got me thinking of my experience with men i knew in organizations like that. My ex-boyfriends best friend was the president of MAV (men against violence) and he was one of the rudest people i have ever met, unless he really liked you. I never witnessed him be physically violent with women but he was verbally abusive all the time. I would walk into their apartment to see my boyfriend and get a "hey slut" or a "hey bitch" all the time. It offended me at first but then i just got used to the fact that thats just how he is. However it gives a negative vibe to an organization if their president acted that way. Now i don't know if he was really in the organization for the right reasons or if it was just to look good on a resume but either way i think its wrong. If you're going to take a stand on such a strong topic like that it needs to be consistent through out your life.

9/22

Today in class we talked about the mens movement. I think that men are overlooked when it comes to suffereing or needing something. People think that men are supposed to have it all figured out and not need anyones help. Because the fact that men are supposed to not need anyones help it is hearder for them to ask for it. I believe that men are just as negatively portrayed as women. If a man can't take care of his family by himself, then he is a "loser", if a man can but doesnt spend much time with his family then he is a "horrible dad". Sometimes they just can't win.

On the right track?

Sunday night, I went to dinner with my parents. At the table behind us, there was a family that consisted of the parents and two boys under the age of 6. I overheard the mother say to the youngest son, who appeared to be around 3 years old, "big boys don't whine." He followed up with "yeah, they don't cry either." The mother then said, "sure they do, everyone cries." I didn't hear a word from the father. I was happy to hear the mother say that because I definately think that it should be acceptable for men/boys to show their emotions. I think the mother is on the right track by teaching her boys that it is ok to cry.