I personally dont get scared doing things like that, but I see why many women do. Because people have these ideas that women should be scared, it really does place huge restrictions on us, and I dont like it one bit when I think about it that way!
My ex- bf use to get mad at me if I ever left a bar to walk to my car by myself or anything like that. It really would piss me off, because yea I guess something can happen, but im not going to live my life taking every precaution. That issue of him being protective really put some unwanted restrictions on me. Its not fair because he doesn't know how it feels to be labeled as the damsel in distress who can walk to her car!!
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A man feels his responsibility is to serve and protect his partner. For ur boyfriend feeling like you shouldnt walk to ur car is almost a universal rule for most guys, its for ur own safety and protection. If something was ot happent o you then he will feel responsible. Society implements these norms of what is considered acceptable and the roles that men should play, yet when they perform those roles it becomes controversial and women feel as if the guys are being over protective.
I agree with John doe and I understand that why men typically do this. My uncle and his brother were about 9 and 10 when they were walking to the store around the corner from their house when one of my uncles was kidnapped and raped by these guys. So in my family it is stressed that children and women should not be alone at night. Now that doesn't mean that all the time I can have someone with me when I go out but for the most part my brother or boyfriend accompanies me when I do go out at night. Another instance that happened to me was in broad day light. I was walking home from my friends house and I was about 16 years old and she lived right around the corner from me. As I was walking a white truck pulled up next to me and said hey baby do you want a ride and I ignored them. I started to feel my heart beat and began to walk faster. Then they kept driving next to me. The driver started to open his door and by this time one of my mothers friends saw me and stopped and the guys drove off fast. So I don't like to walk any where by myself alone at night.
I agree that we can't live in fear our entire lives, but we should also be aware of dangerous situations and take precautions accordingly. If there is a guy who is a friend that can walk me to my car I think that he should offer and even if he doesn't I by no means find it unappropriate to ask to be walked out. Most guys respond with "of course" or "I'm sorry I didn't ask, yeah".
This may be silly, but if I'm ever uncomfortable I call people on my phone and talk loudly to hopefully deter any crazies because they can see that I'm talking to someone on the other line. This may not work at all, but I feel like I'm at least doing something...
I think it is sad that in today's society, it is not just women that feel unsafe in situations such as those discussed. Even though men might have a physical advantage or equality to most of the perpetrators, it is still not something that a man would want to deal with. 99% of the time, I feel safe in whatever situation I am in, but there are still times when I wonder who might be around the corner.
Well it's not really about damsel in distress, it's about being smart and responsible. The bottom line is women and children are at a higher risk of something happening.Look at the crime rates. Why not play it safe? Is it really a problem that your boyfriend wants to walk you to your car? I think it is sweet, and courteous. Not because I am helpless, I mean let's face it, not all men could protect you anyways, but the point is to be in groups so you are not alone. so even if this means walking with friends, it is just safer. I don't see how that really restricts one's life. I have been followed home before when I was in high school. The man blocked me in my driveway and was getting out of his car and if it wasn't for me calling my house and my dad quickly running out who knows what would have happened. As soon as that man saw my Dad he took off. My dad even tried to follow him and find him, but the man had too much of a head start. P.s. My dad is kind of a bad ass. But anyway, the reality is that the world can be a cruel place and we are not invincible, anyone can be a victim, you just never think it could be you. Be smart. Be safe. It could save your life.
I agree with you guys. Men have responsibility to protect and take care of their girl friends. San Marcos is safe place than the other places, but we still have to care our environment. My boyfriend does not want me to walk outside in the night because he is afraid of what happen to me. In addition, there are many police patrol, but still have many rape or other incidents happens. We have to notice anyplace are not safe perfectly.
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