Reasons for Assault

A good friend of mine, we'll call her Monica, was raped a couple years ago. She was stopped at a gas station late at night after a concert. He snuck into her car, then came at her with a knife and made her drive away. After he finished everything, she asked him why he did it. I can't remember everything he said but I know a big part of it was that his mother had recently died and that he was not ok from that. Monica lost her mother a few years before this incident as well. She said "well my mom died too." He then responded with "Well I wouldn't have done this to you if I knew that."

She immediately went to the police. After she reported it and gave a description, five more girls came forward, saying they were attacked by someone with a similar description and at the same place or close by.

I don't think Monica or any of those girls were at fault by any means. People should be able to stop at a gas station without some jackass getting in the car and nearly killing them. Losing a family member is no excuse to hurt a complete stranger. Karma is a bitch, and it came to him. I seem to recall he was found in Mexico and was severely beat by the mexican police. Serves him right...

11/12

Today in class a topic came up that I am sure every girl can relate to. The topic is being yelled or commented at by construction workers. I do not know how many times this has happened. I think that if more women would say something when this happens that maybe the guys would get a hint that women do not like this. When I was in highschool I stopped by the gas station before school to get a drink and this guy sitting in the abck of a truck started making comments. I turned around and told him that I was only 16 yrs old and how would he like it if his daughter was getting hit on by a dirty old man. Needless to say he did not say anything to me as I left the store. Another thing about this topic is that sometimes people in power demonstrate this type behavior and the person does not know how to react. Again, when I was in highschool I was at the gas station, this time getting gas, and a cop drove up along side of me car said " Hey, I like your license plate holder". Ok, I had a convertible and the license plate holder said "On hot days I go topless", but I was 16 and I thought it was fun! But this is not the most disturbing part, after the cop drove off he went to talk to a state trooper and the next thing I know the state trooper is staring at me. I just felt very uncomfortable. Most people would say that I was asking for it because my license plate holder was drawing attention to me, but I put it on there because I though it was fun and it was my first car and I wanted to make it pretty. I do not think that in any way was i asking to get hit on.

North Country

I have seen his movie before and understood what the movie was about and what she was fighting for. But watching it in class really opened my eyes to the small details, like in the bosses office at the mine he had a calendar with a half naked girl and her legs were wide open. I mean those kind of things I didn't see the first time I watch it. I found my self tearing up at the same parts that I teared up when I watched it the first time. This movie is very emotional and gets the idea and point across very well.
I also thought it was funny that she asked why no one picked on Gloria. The men may not have done the disgusting things to Gloria that they did to the other women but she faced her own struggles inside the Union meetings. When they brushed off all her ideas and opinions and made jokes about it. Gloria didn't have the same power as the men and was out numbered.

GREAT MOVIE and I enjoyed watching it very much. This is an extreme version of what is still going on in the work force today. For and example: I worked as a cocktail waitress for 2 weeks, basically worked the training. It was at the Sports Bar Legends in Austin and my ass got grabbed a few times and the men actually dropped the glasses on purpose so I would have to bend over and clean them up. I got called honey, sugar lips, miss thang, darling, and many other things that were degrading to me. Sexual harassment and thinking of women on a lower level is still prevalent in today's society yet it is not as blatantly obvious as it was in this movie. (Men get sexually harassed as well)

Male Generic Language

I have a teacher that noticed he kept saying "you guys" when he talked to us. He said he recognized that you guys doesn't refer to females, so he decided to start saying "you students." He corrected himself several times that particular day, saying "you g, you students." Now he's back to the "you guys." It doesn't offend me at all when people say that. I thought it was funny that he said students instead...it just doesn't sound right. I applaud his recognition but, either way, it made me laugh.

11/3

Today in class we watched the movie North Country. I have never seen this movie before and I am shocked at what she had to go through. It is hard to believe that women were treated so badly, but then i realize that this still happens today and that women are not the only ones that get harrassed at work. I just cant wait to finish the movie on wednesday.

Dating your close friends.

I have never dated any of my close friends because I was always afraid that if I did, it not workout and we would never be friends again or have a good relationship. I seen many of my friends in high school date their close friends and it was a disaster. My senior year in high school people started thinking that my best friend Jonathan and I liked each other, and so everyone started pressuring us to get together. I did not like him that way so we never got together. I knew that things would not work out between us and so I avoided that situation and we are still best friends today. I always told myself that "I rather have this great friendship than ruin it when I knew I did not feel that way about him."

The Door Test

The Door Test is when a guy locks both doors when he gets out the car. He opens the door for the young lady and walks around the back of the car to look in the back window to see if she unlocks his door before he gets to it. If the lady doesnt unlock his door, then he is suppose to dump her because she is a selfish broad. Granted most people have power locks now a days, so there is no need to unlock the door. So how can a guy know if a girl is really the one?